hiddenmuse | My Mom

As you all may know, I was raised Mormon. My family (mom, brother and sister-in-law, and sister {kind of}) are active in the Church, and of course, the Mormon Church was a major force behind Prop 8 passing.

While my mom isn't particularly fond of my being a lesbian - and being married to a woman - she is doing as well as she can with the fact that I'm not the good heterosexual Mormon daughter she'd hoped for. Maybe my teenage sister being pregnant has helped that along - she realizes that while her family may not be the ideal Mormon family, at least she has us all together.

Anyways, yesterday, when she found out that Prop 8 had passed, she sent me this e-mail:

Hey Sweetie –

Just checking in. I saw that Prop 8 passed. Wanted to see how you & Kellie are doing. I haven’t seen much what this means to your marriage. Will it still be recognized?

My feeling is, if you are legally married, man & woman, woman & woman, man & man, you should still be able to stay married. The Govt. should not be able to step in and take that away.

I love you both. You know I don’t always agree with things you do and say, but I will always love you no matter what. I am here for both of you.

Love

Mom

That meant so much to me - that she has that concern about our marriage, as well as being upset over the state interference in anyone's marriage. Also, knowing that she loves and supports us - that really means so much. The last line, where my mom says that she doesn't always agree with what we do or say, that kind of rankles Kellie, she thinks that it's passive-aggressive. Honestly, I just look past it, like "whatever..." - that's such a small percentage of the whole message, it almost doesn't matter.

Since I didn't get back to her until later in the day, she called me in the evening, to see how Kellie and I were doing. In that "so cute and rather awesome" move, she asked me if we'd thought about moving to Massachusetts or Connecticut, where our marriage would be legal and recognized! And she also told me that no matter what happens in the courts, the most important thing is the love that Kellie and I have for each other.

The fact that my mom - a conservative Republican Mormon - could say and do this, is amazing. I never would've imagined that she would be this way when I'd finally came out to her last year.

So yay to my mom for making progress and being (relatively) cool about what's happening in my life!