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hiddenmuseI have a sex filter, where I write about sex (duh) and anything related to it.
As a part of the filter, I post questions from the book, The Book of Questions - Love and Sex - mainly when I have no idea of what to write. And since there are some non-sex related questions, I thought I'd post a couple of the questions here.
Also, addition to the filter is ongoing - just drop a line on here, and I will add you!
In the meantime, onto the questions:
#15. If you were feeling sick and miserable, would you rather be by yourself or have your partner with you? Why?
I tend to prefer being by myself, because I can be a big baby about being sick, and I'd rather not subject anyone else to it. But sometimes, I do want my partner to be around to take care of me, because I can be a big baby. It's just a major dichotomy, really.
#78. When you look back on past relationships, do you ever wonder what you saw in a former lover? If so, is it more because you have changed or because you have grown to see the person more clearly?
Do I ever wonder? Is the sky blue? Seriously, there have been many times that I would question what I saw in a former lover. Usually, it didn't come up until a long time after the fact - and it came about from seeing things more clearly, since I wasn't caught up in the lust, or caught up in the moment, or just seeing what I wanted to see.
That's kind of how I came to realize that an ex-boyfriend was abusive towards me. I assumed that what was the verbal and emotional abuse was just his sarcasm and his general personality - not his way of abusing a lover. He wasn't hitting me, so therefore, it wasn't abuse. Yeah, I was desperate for affection and love, since I didn't feel like I was loveable. So I kind of glommed onto whomever came around - and didn't pay any mind to what came my way.
So, what about you, my lovelies? How would you answer the questions?
As a part of the filter, I post questions from the book, The Book of Questions - Love and Sex - mainly when I have no idea of what to write. And since there are some non-sex related questions, I thought I'd post a couple of the questions here.
Also, addition to the filter is ongoing - just drop a line on here, and I will add you!
In the meantime, onto the questions:
#15. If you were feeling sick and miserable, would you rather be by yourself or have your partner with you? Why?
I tend to prefer being by myself, because I can be a big baby about being sick, and I'd rather not subject anyone else to it. But sometimes, I do want my partner to be around to take care of me, because I can be a big baby. It's just a major dichotomy, really.
#78. When you look back on past relationships, do you ever wonder what you saw in a former lover? If so, is it more because you have changed or because you have grown to see the person more clearly?
Do I ever wonder? Is the sky blue? Seriously, there have been many times that I would question what I saw in a former lover. Usually, it didn't come up until a long time after the fact - and it came about from seeing things more clearly, since I wasn't caught up in the lust, or caught up in the moment, or just seeing what I wanted to see.
That's kind of how I came to realize that an ex-boyfriend was abusive towards me. I assumed that what was the verbal and emotional abuse was just his sarcasm and his general personality - not his way of abusing a lover. He wasn't hitting me, so therefore, it wasn't abuse. Yeah, I was desperate for affection and love, since I didn't feel like I was loveable. So I kind of glommed onto whomever came around - and didn't pay any mind to what came my way.
So, what about you, my lovelies? How would you answer the questions?
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Date: 2007-08-26 11:00 am (UTC)I'd rather have someone take care of me, but that never happens :P
#78. When you look back on past relationships, do you ever wonder what you saw in a former lover? If so, is it more because you have changed or because you have grown to see the person more clearly?
Yes. I wonder this about my ex-girlfriend every day. For me, it was a bit of both. I began to see her for who she really was (an abusive psychopath), and because I changed and wasn't willing to put up with her shit anymore.