Well that's just ... lovely
Jan. 31st, 2005 09:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Apparently there's a discussion going in
faghags over what constitutes a "True" fag hag. Basically, are you a fag hag if you date/fool around with gay men, or are you a fag hag if you just about mother them?
If I'm not mistaken, "fag hag" originally referred to a straight woman that wanted to sleep with a gay man - and made no bones about it. Somehow, it's evolved into a name for the gay guy's best girl-friend. Someone that he can be fun and bitchy with - without sexual tension getting in the way.
Where does that leave the Queer girls that love their gay guy friends - but don't want to fuck them eight ways to Sunday? And what of the straight and queer girls that like the idea of two guys getting it on ... but wouldn't want to join in, just watch?
Yeah, I'm asking about where us Slashers fit into the whole scenario. (Oh wait ... I guess that makes us girlfags. Or something.)
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If I'm not mistaken, "fag hag" originally referred to a straight woman that wanted to sleep with a gay man - and made no bones about it. Somehow, it's evolved into a name for the gay guy's best girl-friend. Someone that he can be fun and bitchy with - without sexual tension getting in the way.
Where does that leave the Queer girls that love their gay guy friends - but don't want to fuck them eight ways to Sunday? And what of the straight and queer girls that like the idea of two guys getting it on ... but wouldn't want to join in, just watch?
Yeah, I'm asking about where us Slashers fit into the whole scenario. (Oh wait ... I guess that makes us girlfags. Or something.)
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Date: 2005-02-01 06:06 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2005-02-01 06:11 am (UTC)I've never heard that term before today, but it doesn't really seem like something that I would want to be.
Then again, I would much rather be labled based on what I do (slasher, skiier, insurance account representative) and what I intrinsicly am (sister, daughter, granddaughter) than the way I think or feel.
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Date: 2005-02-01 05:13 pm (UTC)And yes, "Slasher" (or as I think of myself, "slash slut") is an identity unto itself, most definitely.
I just found it interesting that some of the girls took the discussion as one-upmanship (or is it "one-upwomanship"?), trying to determine who is more fag hag-gier than thou, when it seems to be about discussing what the individual thinks makes them a fag hag.
Ah well ... you'll always find some kind of silliness and contention in any group.
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Date: 2005-02-01 06:12 am (UTC)Basically I think us slashers are a whole new catagory of our own ;)
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Date: 2005-02-01 05:15 pm (UTC)Yes, we want to write all kinds of fun, dirty stories about guys interacting beyond locker room banter and junior high circle jerks. :-X
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Date: 2005-02-01 09:23 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-01 05:15 pm (UTC)My personal favorite is "flame dame" - sounds a little more dignified, or something. ;)
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Date: 2005-02-01 12:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-01 05:24 pm (UTC)As I told someone before, when this same topic came up, I just call them "my friends". :-)
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Date: 2005-02-02 12:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-02 01:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-03 12:27 am (UTC)With your description, it sounds especially lecherous!
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Date: 2005-02-01 02:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-01 05:17 pm (UTC)Some girls want to sleep with their men - others don't. As much as I love my men, I wouldn't want to sleep with them - and I'd imagine that the feeling is mutual.
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Date: 2005-02-01 03:25 pm (UTC)I have had the same best fag boi friend forever.
And he tells me that I cain't be a faghag cause I'm a lesbian.
So, thus, what the hell am I?
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Date: 2005-02-01 05:26 pm (UTC)Now, I just refer to myself as a "flame dame" - because apparently there isn't an actual term for queer girls that hang out with queer boys.
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Date: 2005-02-01 04:53 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-01 05:22 pm (UTC)It could get really messy, but I think that "fag hag" is best defined by each individual. For some of us, we prefer to keep things platonic. Others are willing to take things further. (Yes, I realize that taking a "laissez-faire" approach may seem like a cop-out...)
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Date: 2005-02-01 10:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-03 12:43 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-01 05:26 pm (UTC)Does there have to be specific catagories for those of us females (gay or straight) who love our gay men(sexually or platonically)?
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Date: 2005-02-01 05:30 pm (UTC)I think sometimes people just like to compartmentalize everything, and one way to keep things in order is to have a label or designation for everyone.
We should be able to consider ourselves whatever we want to ... without someone else getting bitchy about it. (But, that's probably too idealistic!)
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Date: 2005-02-01 05:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-03 12:44 am (UTC)Thanks for reminding me! ;)
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Date: 2005-02-04 04:49 pm (UTC)At least you're not alone in yur fantasy land!
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Date: 2005-02-01 06:58 pm (UTC)~Nicole
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Date: 2005-02-03 12:45 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-02-03 02:08 pm (UTC)~Nicole