Nothing's Shocking?

[hiddenmuse]

Kellie made the comment that "I imagine it takes a lot to gross you out when it comes to sexual stuff."

It might read that way, but the truth is ... I can be a bit squeamish.

Watching Pink Flamingos last weekend, there were parts of that film that had me damn near ready to put my hands over my eyes.

I have a hard time watching porn because I'm uncomfortable with the idea of watching people having sex.

Some of the stuff I write about is an exercise for me in working out the issues I have with taboo subjects.

The idea of telling a partner, "I'd like to try ..." or "How about...?" makes me a nervous mess.

In the stories I write, people are unafraid. They're willing to expand their horizons, try new, subversive things. They actually have fun during sex. (Not that I haven't had fun, mind you ... it's the being unafraid & horizon-expanding.)

So, yeah, I guess that means that through my stories, I'm doing the "fake it 'til you make it" thing with some of the more taboo sexual topics.

Comments

[sigmaration.livejournal.com]

Everybody is afraid to some degree when it comes to asking for what they want. Everyone has nervousness about being seen by their partner as not "normal".. or being rejected.

But listen. If you can't be honest with your partner about what your wants are, perhaps you aren't close enough to be in bed.

(YMMV, as always)

[becky11.livejournal.com]

Get out of my brain!!!

Aside from the writing stories part, that is exactly how I feel. I hope you don't feel alone in your squeemishness.

:)

Oh, Piffle...

[esotericountess.livejournal.com]

To be truthful, there are still times when I get squeamish. My husband has often remarked that I'm not agressive enough with females. I told him that he should be glad that I was even willing to be with females.

The truth of the matter is that people are weird about sex. It is that one mystical thing about us that is more wild than any other part of us. It's something that yes, you should talk about, but I wouldn't worry too much.

When the timing is right, and the situation is too, then you'll know.
BTW, have you tried reading erotic stories to each other? sometimes porn is just a little...gross.

[leafeater80.livejournal.com]

Well, I am totally there with you... I wouldn't say I'm sexually squeamish, there is nothing wrong with my imagination; it's more like I'm timid in real life. I've resolved to try and be a lot less timid with my next partner, communicate better and try more stuff.