Well that's just ... lovely

[hiddenmuse]

Apparently there's a discussion going in faghags over what constitutes a "True" fag hag. Basically, are you a fag hag if you date/fool around with gay men, or are you a fag hag if you just about mother them?

If I'm not mistaken, "fag hag" originally referred to a straight woman that wanted to sleep with a gay man - and made no bones about it. Somehow, it's evolved into a name for the gay guy's best girl-friend. Someone that he can be fun and bitchy with - without sexual tension getting in the way.


Where does that leave the Queer girls that love their gay guy friends - but don't want to fuck them eight ways to Sunday? And what of the straight and queer girls that like the idea of two guys getting it on ... but wouldn't want to join in, just watch?

Yeah, I'm asking about where us Slashers fit into the whole scenario. (Oh wait ... I guess that makes us girlfags. Or something.)

Comments

[peppervl.livejournal.com]

We're slashers. Isn't that identity enough? That leaves us free to drool over hot guys getting it on or hot girls getting it on. And it doesn't matter if we're straight, queer, or bisexual.

I've never heard that term before today, but it doesn't really seem like something that I would want to be.

Then again, I would much rather be labled based on what I do (slasher, skiier, insurance account representative) and what I intrinsicly am (sister, daughter, granddaughter) than the way I think or feel.

[hiddenmuse.livejournal.com]

Which term? I assume that you mean "fag hag" ... heh

And yes, "Slasher" (or as I think of myself, "slash slut") is an identity unto itself, most definitely.


I just found it interesting that some of the girls took the discussion as one-upmanship (or is it "one-upwomanship"?), trying to determine who is more fag hag-gier than thou, when it seems to be about discussing what the individual thinks makes them a fag hag.

Ah well ... you'll always find some kind of silliness and contention in any group.