Well that's just ... lovely

[hiddenmuse]

Apparently there's a discussion going in faghags over what constitutes a "True" fag hag. Basically, are you a fag hag if you date/fool around with gay men, or are you a fag hag if you just about mother them?

If I'm not mistaken, "fag hag" originally referred to a straight woman that wanted to sleep with a gay man - and made no bones about it. Somehow, it's evolved into a name for the gay guy's best girl-friend. Someone that he can be fun and bitchy with - without sexual tension getting in the way.


Where does that leave the Queer girls that love their gay guy friends - but don't want to fuck them eight ways to Sunday? And what of the straight and queer girls that like the idea of two guys getting it on ... but wouldn't want to join in, just watch?

Yeah, I'm asking about where us Slashers fit into the whole scenario. (Oh wait ... I guess that makes us girlfags. Or something.)

Comments

[full4zaccordion.livejournal.com]

Mmmmmm....boy-on-boy action....

[peppervl.livejournal.com]

We're slashers. Isn't that identity enough? That leaves us free to drool over hot guys getting it on or hot girls getting it on. And it doesn't matter if we're straight, queer, or bisexual.

I've never heard that term before today, but it doesn't really seem like something that I would want to be.

Then again, I would much rather be labled based on what I do (slasher, skiier, insurance account representative) and what I intrinsicly am (sister, daughter, granddaughter) than the way I think or feel.

[katlinn.livejournal.com]

Hmmm! good question! I always assumed the term meant a girl that generally hangs around/is good friends with gay guys.

Basically I think us slashers are a whole new catagory of our own ;)

[jenxteen.livejournal.com]

For some reason, I had not heard the term "fruit fly" until this weekend.

[saintrigger.livejournal.com]

OI! What about us straight guys who hang around with their lesbian friends (SO they can beat up the bullies and stuff ;> ) and have no desire to sleep with them (or watch, which blows alot of peoples minds)

[cyndal.livejournal.com]

I always assumed the term "fag hag" dealt with straight women who played den mother to her fags. I would never dream of sleeping with mah fags.

[storyofagurl.livejournal.com]

Those are such good questions.

I have had the same best fag boi friend forever.
And he tells me that I cain't be a faghag cause I'm a lesbian.

So, thus, what the hell am I?

[azraelsdaisy.livejournal.com]

I completely ignored that discussion because I knew it would make me mad. I always understood that a fag hag was a straight girl who enjoyed the company of gay men over straight men. I think that's why Thomas, Jeremy, and Brad all call me their fag hag.

[bak2oz.livejournal.com]

I've always been a "fruit fly." Dunno where the title came from, but I'm the mothering hag who's gay friends love to bitch with/no sexual tension.

Does there have to be specific catagories for those of us females (gay or straight) who love our gay men(sexually or platonically)?

[drivernj.livejournal.com]

Ahh man do I ever love the man on man action! I wouldn't mind joining in though, if I had to ;)

~Nicole