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hiddenmuse) wrote2007-11-08 04:04 pm
hiddenmuse) wrote2007-11-08 04:04 pm
Since I don't have a "Fuck You" icon
You know that elusive "It" that my mom talked about when I came out to her? The "It" that she didn't want in her house?
Well, apparently "It" is Kellie. Yeah, total sucker-punch there.
See for yourself in this redacted in some places e-mail I received today:
Carly -
You are a hard person to reach.1 I hope all is going well for you and you are doing okay.
T. and I are doing well. She took a leave of absence from XYZ Co. They didn't want her to quit, but she liked ABC better because they let her do whatever she wants there. She works as a server, or production or the window, and she was learning the grill. (At) XYZ Co., she would do just one thing, like casher for 6 hours straight. That got too old for her, she wanted more variety. So XYZ Co., told her she could come back whenever she wanted. Her boss asked if she would work, just one day a week. She might go back in the summer. She realizes she needs to get her studies up to par before anything. What else is nice. She told ABC that she didn't want to work on Sundays, and would like to work the days on Tuesdays so she could go to YW. They agreed to that, and they are giving her every Sat & Sun off. Not bad.
I hadn't heard from you about Christmas. I thought long and hard about this and spoke to T. Please don't get upset.2
We want you to come, but not Kelly. Kelly seems to be a nice person, but, I am selfish, and want you to myself, so does T. If Kelly were to come w/you, we'd never see you. I love you and you are always welcomed home, but right now, Kelly is not. T. does not want her in the home, and I have to respect her wishes.3
I hope you both can understand. We both love you Carly. You are my oldest daughter, and the love I have for you will never change. T. and I would like to spend time with you. We only see you once a year and just for a short period of time at that.
I hope you can understand. Call me, e-mail me and let me know.
Love you much!!!
Mom
As I'd said previously, she's not rushing out to join P-FLAG anytime soon - and as you can see here, she's kind of cementing that one.
I'm calling shenanigans on these things, hence the footnotes:
1. I was not hard to get a hold of. Truthfully, she didn't make any real effort to get in contact me. Unless she counts an e-mail forward as an attempt at contacting me.
2. "Please don't get upset" - the preface for the "We love you, but..." spiel
3. This would be what they call "telling me that Kellie is currently persona non grata, served with a dash of 'passing the blame'". I seriously doubt that my mom would let my sister's opinion dictate what happens in the house.
Try to keep in mind that this is the same person that blamed my sexual orientation on my dad, saying that it was his fault for not being around that made me "that way".
Yeah ... Way to be, mom - got more salt to pour in those wounds?
*sigh* I will never understand people. Especially my family.
Well, apparently "It" is Kellie. Yeah, total sucker-punch there.
See for yourself in this redacted in some places e-mail I received today:
Carly -
You are a hard person to reach.1 I hope all is going well for you and you are doing okay.
T. and I are doing well. She took a leave of absence from XYZ Co. They didn't want her to quit, but she liked ABC better because they let her do whatever she wants there. She works as a server, or production or the window, and she was learning the grill. (At) XYZ Co., she would do just one thing, like casher for 6 hours straight. That got too old for her, she wanted more variety. So XYZ Co., told her she could come back whenever she wanted. Her boss asked if she would work, just one day a week. She might go back in the summer. She realizes she needs to get her studies up to par before anything. What else is nice. She told ABC that she didn't want to work on Sundays, and would like to work the days on Tuesdays so she could go to YW. They agreed to that, and they are giving her every Sat & Sun off. Not bad.
I hadn't heard from you about Christmas. I thought long and hard about this and spoke to T. Please don't get upset.2
We want you to come, but not Kelly. Kelly seems to be a nice person, but, I am selfish, and want you to myself, so does T. If Kelly were to come w/you, we'd never see you. I love you and you are always welcomed home, but right now, Kelly is not. T. does not want her in the home, and I have to respect her wishes.3
I hope you both can understand. We both love you Carly. You are my oldest daughter, and the love I have for you will never change. T. and I would like to spend time with you. We only see you once a year and just for a short period of time at that.
I hope you can understand. Call me, e-mail me and let me know.
Love you much!!!
Mom
As I'd said previously, she's not rushing out to join P-FLAG anytime soon - and as you can see here, she's kind of cementing that one.
I'm calling shenanigans on these things, hence the footnotes:
1. I was not hard to get a hold of. Truthfully, she didn't make any real effort to get in contact me. Unless she counts an e-mail forward as an attempt at contacting me.
2. "Please don't get upset" - the preface for the "We love you, but..." spiel
3. This would be what they call "telling me that Kellie is currently persona non grata, served with a dash of 'passing the blame'". I seriously doubt that my mom would let my sister's opinion dictate what happens in the house.
Try to keep in mind that this is the same person that blamed my sexual orientation on my dad, saying that it was his fault for not being around that made me "that way".
Yeah ... Way to be, mom - got more salt to pour in those wounds?
*sigh* I will never understand people. Especially my family.
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I can't live your life for you, but in my opinion, if you go home for Christmas, you are a doing a HUGE injustice to Kellie. We won't get to see you at all if Kellie is with you. What a bunch of horse shit. But if you were with a man, he would be welcome and wouldn't take up your time? The ability to hog one's time comes from having a uterus?
I'm a very firm believer that family is what you make it...not necessarily who you are related to by blood (if you happen to love your blood relatives, it is a great bonus) Kellie is your family. Spend the holidays with her.
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We are going there together. Plane tickets and everything are already purchased. If Carly's mom wants to see her daughter, she's gotta deal with me as well.
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Thankfully we're going to be visit the families before Christmas, so we'll have the actual holidays to ourselves!
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Hopefully your Mom will come around though....