Wow, that was really nice of her to wait until you'd expended money to reveal her true feelings. /end snark

I get the same type of 'feeling' from Dave's family - you know, since I have that bastard child by the man of another color - and I have absolutely no desire to make another trip up there. Luckily, Dave hasn't pushed the issue.

The way I see it now is that if they really want to spend time with you, they can come and visit you. It goes like this - you want me to spend my money to come and see you, you accept whomever I bring with me. Otherwise, you spend your own money and come and see me.