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This morning, I was thinking about music, and how people tend to pick some of the most fucked-up songs for their weddings. Or, at the very least, some of the recommendations for wedding songs.

Now, I can totally get behind something like "The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face" or even "My Funny Valentine". But, who are the jackasses that pick these songs:

The Police - "Every Breath You Take": A song about stalking someone. Yeah, that's quite romantic. Who doesn't want a song with the line, "oh can't you see - you belong to me?", as their wedding song?

Barenaked Ladies - "Call And Answer": Sure, this one starts out sounding kind of on the sweet and lovey side. Then, halfway through the song, you're hit with, "I'm warning you, don't ever do those crazy messed-up things that you do - 'cause if you do, I'll be the first to crucify you". It's not as bad as the next one, though.

Sonic Youth - "100%": One would think that the line "100% of my love, all for you true star" makes for a good wedding song, but whomever recommended this one apparently glossed over the "gun to my head, good-bye I am dead" line. Songs that are tributes to dead friends are never a good idea. But if you insist, how about the slightly more upbeat, "People Who Died" by The Jim Carroll Band?

If *anyone* picks any of those songs for their weddings, I will be in the corner at the reception hall, in a fetal position with my ears plugged.

That being said, what absolutely wrong songs have you heard at wedding receptions - or heard/read being recommended for a wedding?

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In my opinion, there is no such thing as a wrong song at your wedding reception. The decision is that of the couple...nobody else need like it...or understand why they chose it. They may have chosen it because it was the song playing in the bar when they met, or the song that was #1 the day he asked her to be his girlfriend or just a song they have both loved. The night I met my husband the first thing we did was talk long and hard about "Angry Chair" by Alice in Chains, so it is definitely the song I associate with him. Romantic...no.

Songs have different meanings for different people. I do happen to think Every Breath You Take is a beautiful song. Very beautiful in fact. I have my own meaning for the song...which may or may not be what it is really about (any time I ever heard Sting talk about the song, he did not say it was about stalking, but it might be) but it becomes what it means to you, in my opinion.

At my first wedding, the song we got the mothers up on the dance floor for was "Sporting a Woodie"...maybe not approprite per se, but everybody had fun!

I was feeling snarky when I wrote that - and honestly, I try to be of the mindset that whatever makes the couple happy ... go for it!

And I love "Every Breath You Take" - it's a great song. To me, it just seems kind of stalker-y ... lol

Maybe it's just because I've never been married - and as long as the laws are the way they are, it may never happen (legally). So I could risk eating crow if I do end up planning a wedding of my own! :-D