being a mother is one of the hardest things i have ever done, and i'm still surprised that i am one. i never thought i would actually want one! but i know that even if i did not have Cass i would still be a happy and strong woman. I did not need to be a mom to be who i am. and i certainly did not have to have a baby to be complete. that's something i had to find within myself.

i have many friends who don't wish to have children and i really respect that. one of my best friends had a mother who constantly reminded her how her birth ruined her mom's life. i support anyone who does not want a child - it's a choice i really respect.

thank you for your post. it adds to the reasons why i think you pretty much rock.

Jenne