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When I was in college, I had a gay boyfriend. Not a gay boyfriend in the "Oh My God, Oprah - my boyfriend likes dick!" sort of way - nope, this was an openly gay man. How did he become my boyfriend? Well, we were both single - so we decided to be each other's boyfriend/girlfriend, until one or both of us found somebody.

We'd met in Human Sexuality class - the two misfits. Together, we had our "Dumb Blonde" and "Sex Goddess" - his were Anna Nicole Smith and Annie Sprinkle. Mine were Pamela Anderson and Susie Bright. He'd shared his copies of On Our Backs; The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex and his music - Pansy Division, and Cyborgasm - a collection of erotic stories - with me.

After classes, we'd get together and ride around St. Louis - going to the movies (seeing Showgirls with him and one of his friends was a campy good time); going to gay bars and running around some of the neighborhoods.

I always liked gay men. It might have been the connection between gay men and fat girls, but whatever it was, I've always liked hanging around them. We'd have a nice little Mutual Admiration Society going on - and I think some of them liked me because I was a "safe" fag hag/flame dame. Being queer meant that I wouldn't try to come onto them or anything. Sure, they actually liked women - especially the breasts (really!) - in a platonic sense only. And a few I've met were quite "anti-woman", referring to them in perjorative terms - even while I was around. Then again, they were fairly young, and newly out...

Anyways, I love my gay boys - and they seem to like me, too. :-) It's a very good thing.

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Is there a connection between gay men and fat girls? You know what I love about men? I am not terribly experienced with dealing with guys, and for me, its so much easier, i feel like i can be myself..if that makes sense, i dont have to play any damn games..

i love gay men who love women (platonically of course), you always come up with the most interesting subjects to post about..you are really quite wonderful.

I am SO with you on the gay men like boobs thing! I even told my cousin, when he was coming out to me, that that was the thing that made it harder for me to say for certain I knew beforehand. I don't think he has a single female friend that doesn't sport at least "C" cups. :P

I was fairly certain, as was most of the family, that said cousin was gay. But, the boob thing had me wondering...could be straight/could be gay. He hasn't come out quite all the way as his g'rents on the other side would flip out. It's messed up as all of us he's told have been supportive. I can't stand that he doesn't have the full love and support he deserves. Shoot, in this day and age, he shouldn't *have* to come out. He should just be able to be.

Sorry for the mini-rant, but I feel strongly about that.

Hello gorgeous! *waves*

No problem with the mini-rant - I agree with what you said!

And yeah, while not all gay men are fascinated by boobs, some of the guys I know/knew have that fascination ... lol

It seems like there's a connection - probably because both tend to be social outcasts.

And you make total sense - it is easier to be yourself around men that don't expect anything beyond friendship!

*blushes* I'm just writing what I know, that's all. :)

I really like that you are able to express thoughts that dont seem to be able to make their way out of my head.

I've often wondered to myself if the reason I stay overweight is because I dont know how to deal with men my age, quite frankly, they scare me..

i just read your latest post about yourself and we are very alike in the not being able to start conversations, doesnt dance by myself, although when i take my dog for a walk, i have fob in my ipod and i dance a little..and its kind of fun :)

this is going to sound so 6th grade, but you are so fun, i cant wait to see what you say next :)

XD love your icon XD

Thank you, dear.

As always, I love your Jake Gyllenhaal. :-D

Well, thank you on all counts!

Men can be weird, awkward and scary. I guess I look at gay men as being "practice" for talking with the straight ones. Also, it seemed to help that I had male friends (yes, even straight men), so guys didn't feel so "alien".